Why no girlfriend?; Are you gay?

I have been blessed with many good friends. Somehow, along the way, whenever I find myself in a situation of grave concern, someone, somewhere offers a hand.

I cherish all my friends. Whenever I can, I offer my help. I take friendship very seriously and will do my best not to let my friends down. 

For a while, after what happen back in 1997, it was difficult to trust again; but some friends rallied around me, and that really helped. Since then, there have still been times when I am disappointed and let-down by a few friends but I suppose it is not fair to always expect people to be honest with you and be frank with you all the time. But I do not allow some unfortunate incidents with some friends to taint the good people I know.

So whenever friends ask me questions, I tried to answer as truthfully and correctly, but some questions are a little more difficult to answer. 

Last night, I was asked THAT question again; 'Richard, why no girlfriend?', 'Are you gay?'.

I find the 2nd question hilarious as it shows the mindset of people that if a man is single for a long time, he must be gay. How wrong!

First, there is absolutely nothing wrong if one is gay. Secondly, if I am single and not seeing anyone, it does NOT equate to homosexuality. 

But for me, I have been unlucky in issues of the heart. I have always said, that issues of the heart, is hard to legislate. You meet someone, you like her, you disclose to her how you feel, and then bang - she tells you 'no'. So, you recluse yourself and recover, before you move on.

It has (unfortunately) happen to me a few times already, where I meet a lady whom I feel is the one, but she said 'no'. Apa boleh buat, I am not good enough for that girl.

Anyway, I dont normally blog about this. But for some strange reason, in the last 2-3 weeks, more people have asked me those questions, so I thought I should just clarify that here in this Blog. 

"Nope, I am not gay." 

Have a good week ahead!